WHEN IS A MUG NOT A MUG?

When it's a COACH in a CUP™!

The Science-Backed 'Pattern Interrupt' System That Helps Couples Like You Communicate Better, Stop Hurting Each other, improve Your relationship, stop arguments in their tracks and understand each other better in Minutes - while having a nice Cuppa!!

Introducing the Coach In A Cup™ -

Couples Connection Code Edition

(And YES, one Mug IS Included! Ta-da!)

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THIS ISN'T JUST A 15OZ COFFEE MUG!!

IT'S A RELATIONSHIP TRANSFORMATION PROGRAM WITH A COOL TWIST!

When words fail, emotions skyrocket, and you're about three seconds away from saying something you'll regret for the next week... let your cup do the talking. Then scan the QR code for coaching videos to help you respond, not react, while the kettle boils!

The QR code goes to the dashboard to access the videos and resources for each type of connection mug. You will be given immediate access when you purchase the offer!

THE SCIENCE OF PATTERN INTERRUPTS

(OR: WHY YOUR BRAIN GOES HAYWIRE DURING ARGUMENTS)

Picture this: Your partner mentions—ever so casually—that they've volunteered you both for their cousin's destination wedding... during the playoffs. Your brain does that thing where rational thought evacuates the premises and is immediately replaced by a prehistoric survival mechanism.

That's not a character flaw. That's neurobiology having a party in your brain.

When arguments escalate:

Your rational brain (prefrontal cortex) goes on coffee break
Your emotional brain (limbic system) takes over like an enthusiastic but unqualified intern
Your body enters fight-or-flight mode (as if your partner's comment about the dishwasher is somehow equivalent to a saber-toothed tiger)
Your perspective narrows to "win or die trying"

A pattern interrupt is your brain's reset button.

Halts emotional escalation before you say something that makes sleeping on the couch look inevitable
Creates a crucial pause between "Did they really just say that?" and whatever would have come out of your mouth next
Shifts your brain from "Must defend position at all costs!" to "Oh right, I actually like this person"
Breaks those recurring arguments that you could both recite from memory at this point

The Couples Connection Code is designed specifically as a pattern interrupt tool that works when you need it most—when emotions are high and your internal filter has left the building.

YOU'RE STUCK IN THE EXPERIENCE LOOP

(AKA THE HAMSTER WHEEL OF RELATIONSHIP DOOM)

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You have the same arguments so often you could assign them numbers. ("Oh look, we're having argument #37 again!")

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Small disagreements about loading the dishwasher somehow morph into debates about fundamental respect

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One of you needs space while the other needs to talk RIGHT NOW

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By the time you both calm down, you can't even remember what started it all

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You both leave feeling misunderstood and wondering if your partner actually enjoys pushing your buttons

It's not about love or commitment. It's about your poor brain being hijacked by emotions.

When your emotional temperature rises, your brain physically cannot communicate effectively. It's like trying to have a political discussion while riding a roller coaster—technically possible, but rarely productive. The Connection Code Mug gives you the reset button you both desperately need. Because sometimes, you need to pause before you say something that makes your future self (2 minutes from now) want to crawl under a table.

(Oh, and I've included a bonus from my 5 Phases Self Awareness Course that helps you understand the root causes of 27.5 of the main emotions!)

Genius idea that helped me repair my relationship

"When I first saw this mug I thought "what a genius idea!". My mug got me to pause, reflect and reset when I knew I was going off the rails. It's also allowed me to pause and reflect on my own behaviour in the few minutes it takes to boil the kettle and enjoy my Tea Pigs Peppermint and Liquorice tea!"

Mark E, former reactive communicator

(this is not a sponsored promotion for Tea Pigs Tea, however they are delicious!)

"I was always overwhelmed and thought I’d never find a system that worked for me. But the guidebook gave me tools that finally made sense. I’ve learned how to organize my space, manage my time, and even embrace my ADHD strengths to stay on track. It’s been life-changing!"

Mark Ellis, CEO

Here’s What Others Are Saying

Mark Ellis, CEO

Introducing...

YOUR POWERFUL LIFE-CHANGING SUITE oF TOOLS!

Get the mugs as a physical, tangible pattern interrupt tool and simply scan the QR code to access the videos, COMPREHENSIVE Communication Guide and other powerful communication and relationship resources, and cheat sheets any time you want. Add the link to the resources on your phone or computer home screen and it will be available any time you need it.

EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO START IS ON THE MUG!

A REVOLUTIONARY COMMUNICATION TOOL FOR REAL RELATIONSHIPS (NOT THOSE PERFECT INSTAGRAM COUPLES WHO NEVER ARGUE) - and it's cheaper than therapy!

Side 1:

Your Needs, Clearly Expressed Five simple, color-coded phrases to express exactly what you need right now

(for when words are hard)

Also helpful to consider how to respond especially when you each have your own mug!

Side 2:

How to support your partner when it's their turn

Gentle reminders for your partner on how to respond with empathy instead of defensiveness (because we all need a cheat sheet sometimes) - also a good reminder for yourself when you take turns or have your own mugs!

In the Middle:

The QR code. Scan it when you get home from work. Scan it when you need a break and need to remember what to do or say.

**The QR code is an "always-accessible" link to the coaching videos and communication resources (because we never forget what will actually help us in the middle of a discussion, right!)**

USE THE MUG FOR PATTERN INTERRUPTS FOR EVERY OCCASION

BEFORE THINGS ESCALATE

Like a smoke detector for arguments—catch it early before the whole house is on fire. Recognize the early warning signs of a communication breakdown and reach for your mug BEFORE emotions take over. Your future self will thank you.

Transforming Your Space for Peak Productivity

Your environment plays a critical role in your ability to stay focused and organized. In this module, you’ll discover how to create physical and digital spaces that reduce distractions and support your goals. You’ll learn about activity-based zoning, where each area in your space is optimized for specific tasks, making transitions smoother and more efficient. Additionally, you’ll master digital organization techniques to keep your workflow stress-free and aligned with your ADHD needs. This module ensures that your surroundings actively support your productivity and reduce mental clutter.

What They Will Receive...

A step-by-step guide to decluttering and organizing your workspace.

Practical tips for implementing activity-based zones that align with ADHD brain patterns.

Digital organization strategies to streamline your files, emails, and tasks for a clearer mind.

IN THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT

When tensions are already high and you're one eye-roll away from disaster, the mug creates an immediate pattern interrupt—giving your brain the crucial seconds it needs to shift from "I must defend my position at all costs!" to "Oh right, I actually love this person."

WHEN YOU NEED SPACE

Request time to process without your partner feeling like they're being ghosted in their own home. The clear timeframe ensures reconnection, while the explanation prevents them from spending the entire time coming up with worst-case scenarios.

FOR DEEPER CONNECTION

Not just for conflicts! Use pattern interrupts to deepen positive interactions too. Sometimes "I just need you near me" creates more intimacy than an hour of conversation. Create the space for truly hearing and being heard.

Haven't had a blowup in months.

"We used to have the same fight about household chores every week. Now when I feel myself getting triggered, I reach for my Connection Mug. That 30-second pause completely changes how the conversation unfolds. Haven't had a blowup in months. Though we still disagree about whether ketchup belongs in the fridge or pantry."

Jamie and Alex

"This Program Helped Me Achieve What I Thought Was Impossible!"

"I’ve tried so many productivity systems that left me feeling even more overwhelmed, but this program was different. For the first time, I feel like I understand how my brain works and can actually use it to my advantage. The time management techniques and workspace strategies have completely changed how I approach my day. I’ve gone from feeling stuck to feeling empowered."

Sarah Williams, Entrepreneur

Get Even More Tools to Support Your Communication Improvement

Improve your relationship with Your Own Communication Guides:

SHORT Introduction Video #1

How To Use The Mug

A short but clear video to learn how and when to use the mug.

SHORT Instruction Video #2

For The User

Scan the QR code when you need a reminder of how to use the phrases in the heat of the moment. (grabbing the mug is the pattern interrupt that gives you time to watch this really short video.)

SHORT Instruction Video #3

For The Partner

A short video you can access from the QR code to help you remember the most helpful ways to respond, not react, when your partner grabs the mug. Note, its a good idea to take it in turns (or get 2 mugs!!)

COMPREHENSIVE GUIDE

THE COUPLES COMMUNUCATION GUIDE

Using the framework from my Signature 5 Phases Program, along with fully researched guidance, this guide covers communication, behaviour and even explains how to communicate better when one or both of you are neurodiverse, ADHD etc.

CHEATSHEET

THE 5 PHRASES CHEATSHEET

Two printable cheat sheets for the fridge, bedrooom, your wallet, purse, the glovebox, handbag, inside jacket pocket, vanity mirror... you know what I'm talking about. Put them anywhere you know you might need a quick reminder and a reason to stop, pause and respond.

BONUS GUIDE 1:

INTERNAL VS EXTERNAL PROCESSING

Learn how your communication style can help, or hinder, your cause, and the relationship. Learn what to do when you have different needs, and when your partner suddenly switches from one to the other! (Whaaat!)

BONUS GUIDE 2:

EXPECTATIONS - THE DOWNFALL OF COMMUNICATION

Another relationship and connection killer is holding your partner to the instruction manual only you have access to! (The expectations manual!). Learn how to communicate better, have greater clarity and more trust with this bonus.

BONUS 3 and more:

I will be adding new resources on a regular basis for free.

There are many aspects to relationships and improving relationships so I'll be creating new resources to help you. I just created one this morning as I finished this website on "How to stop hurting your partner" that I think is quite powerful. You get that for free too! And ... you can tell me what you want help with and I can create new resources that are detailed and contextual to the 5 phases! I'm here to help you improve your relationship however I can.

OH YES, AND YOU GET ONE 15OZ DELICIOUSLY SMOOTH MUG!:

You're not just purchasing a mug!

You can go to the local discount store and get a mug for under a fiver! This is a suite of connection and relationship enhancing tools that also happens to come with a tangible tool, the mug, to remind you to USE them, and gives you a way to start or interrupt converations the right way!

WHY 2 MUGS ARE BETTER THAN ONE!

(BECAUSE SHARING A TOOTHBRUSH IS GROSS, AND SHARING A COMMUNICATION TOOL ISN'T MUCH BETTER)

"My partner and I both reached for our mugs at the same time during our last disagreement. It was the first time we both acknowledged we needed space instead of pushing through. Total relationship game-changer. Also, no more 'where did you put MY mug?' arguments." - Sarah K.

Both partners get equal communication tools (fairness matters, people!)
Addresses different processing styles simultaneously (for when you both need different things at the same time)
Prevents "whose turn is it to use the mug?" tensions (because that would be ironic)
Creates a shared language for navigating difficult conversations (without needing to actually be good with words)

RECOMMENDED: Add a second mug for just $29 more (Because the only thing better than a relationship-saving mug is TWO relationship-saving mugs)

(THERE'S AN OPTION ON THE CHECKOUT PAGE TO ADD A 2ND MUG!

READY TO TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR communication?

GIVE YOURSELF THE TOOLS TO THRIVE 😃

The Coach In A Cup™ - Couples Connection Mug includes...

ONE MUG - usually arrives in under 14 days.

3 SHORT (UNDER 5 MINUTES EACH!) Coaching videos on how to use the mug, and how to use it "in the moment" for both sides.

The Comprehensive Couples Communication Guide

The Internal Vs External Processing Guide

Expectations - The Relationship Killer - Guide

The BE guide to Emotions - normally reserved for my main course but thought I'd throw it in here for free.

Cheat sheets for printing and taking with you and much more!

"After 23 years of marriage, we thought we knew everything about communication. This mug taught us we still had room to grow. That little pause between reaction and response has been transformative. Our kids have actually asked if they can have their own mugs for Christmas." — Robert & Elaine

"The bonuses alone are worth more than what we paid. The expectations guide and the internal external processing types was something I didn't know anything about and it changed the way I approach every interaction at home and work." — Taylor M.

**Your Price Today with Code LAUNCH30:**

Only $97 $67

* includes free shipping

There's an option on the next page to add a 2nd mug for a discounted price)

**please note that due to the success of the Couples Mug we have been informed by our supplier that there may be delays in production. Please place your order and we will stay in touch if we know of any unexpected delays. At the moment all mugs will be shipped on schedule. You still get access to the resources and videos immediately.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

SOME COMMON QUESTIONS WE HEAR AND YOU'RE PROBABLY ALREADY THINKING

YES, WE HEAR YOUR INNER VOICE SAYING "$97 FOR A MUG?!"

Let's address the ceramic elephant in the room - this isn't just an overpriced vessel for your morning caffeine (though it does hold coffee admirably at 15oz in size - more time for reflection than an 11oz cup).

The Connection Code Mug is a physical tool in a complete relationship enhancement system. Like a circuit breaker for your arguments, it creates that crucial pause when emotions are running high and words are about to come out that you can't stuff back in.

What you're really getting:

A Conflict Interruption Device - When emotions hijack your brain, the mug provides the pattern interrupt you need to shift from reactive to responsive

A Bilingual Translator - For when you and your partner seem to be speaking completely different languages (which, let's face it, is most of the time)

A Permission Slip - To express what you actually need without feeling selfish or defensive

A Reminder System - That you both have valid feelings and are experiencing the same situation from entirely different perspectives

A Complete Education - The included guides give you deep insights into emotional dynamics, processing styles, and communication patterns - with more relationship and communication resources being added!

Think of it this way: The mug is the practical tool; the guides are the wisdom behind it. Together they help you understand that neither of you is intentionally trying to drive the other crazy (despite occasional compelling evidence), and with the right pause button, you can actually hear each other.

When the average couples therapy session runs $150 for 50 minutes, this system starts looking like the relationship bargain of the century. Plus, it keeps your hands warm (and occupied) while saving your relationship - talk about multitasking!

Is this just avoiding difficult conversations?

Not at all! The Connection Code is designed to make difficult conversations MORE productive by creating pattern interrupts at critical moments. It's like calling a timeout in sports—not to avoid playing, but to play better. It's about having better conversations, not fewer.

Will my partner take this seriously?

Unless your partner enjoys unnecessarily dramatic arguments, probably yes. Most partners appreciate clear guidance on how to support you, and be heard themselves. The mug removes guesswork and gives them specific ways to help. Plus, it's hard to maintain righteous anger when someone's holding a mug with helpful suggestions on it!

How long do the mugs take to arrive and can I get these worldwide?

We use a print on demand company to fulfil the mug orders individually so they can take up to 14 days to arrive. If your mugs have not arrived after 14 days please email us at [email protected]

We can currently take orders in the UK, EU and North America as our manufacturer has print facilities in these areas.

Sometimes there may be delays out of our control and won't know immediately. Please be patient and we'll do our best to get it to you as fast as possible.

And yes, shipping is really free!

Why do you recommend two mugs?

Because "Hey, give me MY communication mug!" defeats the whole purpose. Communication is a two-way street. When both partners have equal tools to express needs and create pattern interrupts, you build a stronger communication ecosystem. It also prevents one partner from feeling at a disadvantage.

How long before we see results?

Many couples report improvements with their very first use of the mug. The pattern interrupt effect is immediate (like hitting a reset button), while the deeper communication habits develop over 2-3 weeks of consistent use. One customer described it as "the fastest relationship improvement we've ever experienced that didn't involve chocolate." - Don't forget to read the bonuses guides on Internal vs External Communication styles and Expectations - the relationship killer (and how to be better!)

Is this a replacement for therapy?

The Connection Mug is a practical pattern interrupt tool that complements professional support. While it can dramatically improve everyday communication, it's not intended to replace therapy for couples facing significant challenges. Think of it as daily maintenance rather than major surgery.

What is your refund policy?

We don't have one. You get immediate access to the support material (just remember to check the box for the videos and resources on the next page. email us at questions @ nc.rampyourflows.com

If there is a problem with the mug, contact us with your receipt. order number and we'll replace it if it's broken. It rarely happens, but sometimes it's out of our control. We will rectify it though.

The only reason this won't help is if you don't use it, or read the support documents.

Why you might hesitate to get this mug...

I could give you 4 reasons that dive into the core roots of why we do or don''t do things from a safety, clarity, loss and ego persepctive but instead I'll ask you this:

Do you want to improve your communication and relationship? If you answered yes, I cant give you a valid reason why you'd hesitate.

ABOUT THE CREATOR

(THE MASTERMIND BEHIND YOUR FUTURE PEACEFUL CONVERSATIONS)

The Connection Code was developed by Nolan Collins, author of "BE", "There's A Reason For That", RAMP your Relationship and RAMP your Parenting and creator of the revolutionary 5 Phases To Self Mastery Program. That's me!

After helping thousands of couples improve their communication through coaching (and witnessing the same patterns over and over and over...), and through training in several wellness fields over more than three decades, I wanted to create an affordable tool that could provide support exactly when you need it most—in those critical moments when communication breaks down and old patterns take over. This is something I desperately needed before my divorce in 2021.

With ADHD, I also completely failed at communicating as a father and husband for years. 2 divorces and a strained relationship with my kids only got better because I learned 2 things... to listen, and be self aware.

The result of all this, and developing the 5 Phases program was a realisation that effective communication rooted in self-awareness was a critical component of healthy relationships. I couldn't find advice that wasn't generic (just validate their emotions / feel where they're coming from) , or focused on "handling" the emotions, rather than the root cause (what to say when your partner does x). This is where A Coach in a Cup™ came from. It's a solution that brings professional relationship guidance into your daily routine that both of you can get behind. Because sometimes, the best advice is to stop, regroup and respond.

Btw, I'm now with someone who not only gets all this, but lives it as much as I do. We haven't argued yet, even though we both have a habit of jumping in, and needing space to process. We understand each other and don't let our egos or fears get in the way of talking to each other.

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